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TK’s Two Cents: Don’t let me set your agenda! Part II

I ended the most recent post promising to return with “my two cents on how to ensure you stay on the winning side of life in a world of conflicting agendas.” Let’s delve in…

A world of agendas

Entire religions, political factions, businesses, & philosophies are based on how people see reality and their place within it. Their funding and future growth depends on enough people espousing a certain viewpoint.
Products can’t be sold unless consumers first buy into ideas that are consistent with the purchasing of those products.
Politicians can’t be elected unless voters first buy into the problems those politicians promise to solve.
Religions can’t keep or recruit followers without a continued faith in the existence of certain cosmic agendas.
Everyone who rewards you or rejects you for believing certain things, is someone who has an agenda they’re trying to fulfill.
This is not a knock against business, politics, religion, or anyone in particular. Agendas are a part of everything. The concept of neutral agenda-free people, programs, and policies is a myth. We all have an agenda of some sort.
Some agendas are harmless, some manipulative, others benevolent. Some hidden, others disclosed in plain sight.

What’s your agenda?

What’s most important to those who choose to live their lives as creators, is that they develop the habit of always including their own agendas in the belief formation process.
Before you accept someone else’s interpretation of reality, ask yourself the following question:
“Who wins if I accept this point of view?”
If the answer to that question does not include you, perhaps it is in your best interest to find a different viewpoint.
You are never obligated to accept a disempowering belief just to fit in with another individual or group’s notion of what it means to be “cool”, “good”, “responsible”, “mature”, “intelligent”, or “informed”.
Anyone can tell you what to think, but you’re the only one who gets to experience the full spectrum of the regrets and rewards stemming from your beliefs.
I’m not encouraging you to go out and be a rebel for rebellion’s sake. That’s as unlikely to satisfy you as mindlessly believing everything someone tells you. Continue being involved in whatever you find joy being involved in. 
But before you read the newspaper, go to church service, buy the book, turn on the tv, order the product, make fun of a new concept, or regurgitate an old idea, make sure you’ve at least thought about what your agenda is first.
Choose to be selfish enough to live your life consciously.
Once you do that, you can live an involved and informed life that ensures the facilitation and fulfillment of what matters most to YOU.
I have a feeling that I’m not done with this subject, but that’s my two cents for today.
Until then, have fun creating your own thrill-filled agendas.
T.K. Coleman
PS: My agenda is to selfishly feel the joy I derive from “arguing” for people’s possibilities. It’s all about me and how happy I am when I do this. What’s yours?

TK’s Two Cents: Don’t let me set your agenda!

We live in a world where many different agendas attempt to dictate what we accept as true. 
Sometimes we believe, or live as if we believe, certain things out of loyalty to friends, family, peer groups, or religious and political affiliations.
Although there’s nothing intrinsically wrong with being loyal to those whose respect we desire, if we’re not careful, we may find ourselves believing things that don’t really benefit us at all because of the incentives provided by the parties we wish to please. 

The hidden rewards of losing

People who argue or fight for “negative” outlooks on life often defend themselves by saying “why would I choose to believe something like this when i don’t enjoy looking at it in that way?” They often take the “negative” interpretation as the one they are being forced by reality to accept against their own will.
What we often fail to realize is the many ways in which “negative” beliefs are rewarded and reinforced by certain demographics who don’t see your personal well-being as a top priority. 
For instance, if you choose to believe that money is dirty, filthy, and evil, you might be less likely to live a financially sustainable life.
However, there are groups who would take great pride in associating themselves with you. They will make you feel very holy, dignified, and pleased with yourself for adopting that perception. You may struggle to pay your bills while their agenda benefits greatly from your financial woes. 
If you hang out with the “right” group of people, there are intangible rewards for every possible belief, even the so-called depressing ones.
Consider the notion that no matter how hard you try, you can never be happy and successful because of your background, your parents, or your looks. Surely, anyone in their right mind would dismiss such a proposition wth little afterthought, right?
Although that belief might sound depressing to certain people, somebody wins when people choose beliefs like that. It might not be you, but somebody wins.
This is not a conspiracy theory. It’s just a simple fact that not everyone on this planet cares about you. There’s no need to be angry or preoccupied with that fact. But the sooner we can free ourselves from the illusion that things are otherwise, we can begin taking control of our own lives.
In tomorrow’s post, we’ll continue our discussion and I’ll give you my two cents on how to ensure you stay on the winning side of life in a world of conflicting agendas.
Stay tuned and continue to thrive,
T.K. Coleman
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