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Worrying and caring are two different things

I know people who care about money, but they don’t worry about money.

I know people who care about their health, but they don’t worry about their health.

I know people who care about the problems they have, but they don’t worry about those problems.

What’s the difference?

To care means your heart’s energy is invested in a particular outcome; you have a preference or passion for something.

To worry means you fret and feel anxiety over the things you care about.

A person who worries always cares. A person who cares, however, doesn’t always worry.

It’s easy to assume that if someone doesn’t panic, freak out, or display visible signs of stress, that they don’t care as much as those who do.

Sometimes, it can be the reverse. Some people are so passionate about solving problems and creating results that they work very hard to maintain a calm state of mind in order to more readily access their creative thinking.

The next time you feel stressed and you’re tempted to judge someone who doesn’t seem to care as much as you do, keep this distinction in mind.

It may save you some additional stress.

That’s my two cents.

Cheers,

T.K. Coleman

Worry

Finding a worry-free zone

Here’s a popular myth about “worry”:

If the circumstances that a particular person is worried about were different, then the sense of anxiety felt by that person would disappear.

This assumption flies in the face of the facts. Time and time again, it has been shown that “worry”, in and of itself, is immune to changes in external conditions.

“Worry” is a one-sided coin

People who don’t have money tend to worry about getting money. Hence, they tend to assume that people who do have money don’t suffer from financial related stress. But this isn’t true at all. People who do have money tend to worry about losing what they have.

This phenomenon applies to most anxiety inducing issues almost straight across the board.

People who are lonely may worry about finding a lover, but people with lovers may worry about being abandoned or betrayed by the lover they have.

People without jobs worry about finding one, while the employed worry about layoffs and wage reductions.

People who aspire to do great things may worry about failure, yet people who have succeeded can worry about their best work being far behind them.

Does this mean that “worry” can never be conquered? Absolutely not! It simply means that it wont be conquered by wishing our lives were different than they actually are.

Change the direction of your faith

“Worry” can only be overcome by accepting the fact that it takes faith to live life. Fortunately, we have something solid we can place that faith in; the simple fact that we have the power to process our experiences in whatever way we choose regardless of our circumstances and conditions.

For those who aren’t comfortable with the idea of transcending “worry” with the power of faith, you might benefit from knowing that “worry” is simply another form of faith. Just as a frown is an upside down smile, “worry” is merely faith moving in a backward direction. When you “worry”, you are placing your faith in the idea that your life is an effect rather than a cause. Nothing could be further from the truth.

If you choose to disagree with me, you’re proving my point. How? By deciding to reject this idea, you are affirming your ability to decide for yourself what you will believe.

Now, here’s my question to you: If you have the power to make decisions like that, why not use it for your own good by believing in only the best for yourself?

T.K. Coleman

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