“Be peaceful, be courteous, obey the law, respect everyone; but if someone puts his hand on you, send him to the cemetery.” -Malcolm X
The value of self-defense is not limited to physical and political bullies.
Psychological freedom, much like physical and political freedom, requires vigilance.
If you’re not militant about your well-being, this world will knock the wind out of your sails, flatten you on your back, and grind you beneath its feet.
Assertiveness, contrary to popular misunderstanding, is not the enemy of kindness; it’s the bodyguard of kindness. It’s there to protect what others choose to neglect.
If an abusive or manipulative energy pattern manifests in your life, do the most dignified, democratic, and diplomatic thing you can possibly do: ANNIHILATE IT!
You’re nobody’s clown. You’re nobody’s tool. You’re nobody’s slave. You’re nobody’s punching bag. You’re nobody’s emotional sponge.
You’re a being of intrinsic nobility. Honor all, but take shit from none.
Joan Rivers brilliantly quipped, “If God wanted us to bend over he would put diamonds on the floor.”
Do. Not. Bend. Over.
Adopt a zero-tolerance policy towards all forms of invalidation and bow your head to no one who is unwilling to bow their head to you.
If it threatens to put an end to YOU, put an end to IT!
And for those who need me to state it explicitly, here’s my disclaimer and my two cents all in one:
Psychological vigilance isn’t about harming or killing people. It’s about getting rid of self-defeating patterns and self-negating perspectives.
It’s about looking at the elements of oppression that seek to be a part of your life and firmly saying, “let me help you die!”