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Breakdowns without blame

A “breakdown” is any situation in which an expectation is unmet, a plan is thwarted, or a need goes unfulfilled.

When breakdowns occur, it’s exceptionally easy to look around in search of someone to blame.

To be clear, I distinguish analyzing from blaming.

Analyzing is when you seek to determine the cause of a problem with the intent of using that information to help create a solution.

Blaming is when you assign disapproval, scorn, or punishment to a person based on the conclusion that they are at fault for the problem.

In many cases, breakdowns can be analyzed and resolved without making blame a part of the process at all.

In just as many cases, when blaming IS a part of the process, solutions get more elusive and people become less cooperative.

Here’s today’s two cents:

There are many ways to solve a problem and most of them work more effectively when blame is left OUT of the equation.

At least that’s the way I see it.

What about you?

Responsibility and blame

Responsibility and Blame are not the same.

Blame is the act of attributing fault or guilt to someone in response to an unwanted result.

Responsibility is the act of assuming a leadership role in a given situation.

Taking personal responsibility for everything that happens in your life doesn’t mean that you blame yourself for the bad things that occur.

It simply means that you don’t place your destiny in the hands of someone else by waiting around for THEM to make the adjustments that have to be made in order for YOU to be happy.

The power to make a difference always lies with you.

When you explain your disappointments in terms of what someone or something is doing to you, you give this power away.

There’s no need to blame yourself for not getting what you want. But there’s also no need for you to deny your creative ability to turn any situation around.

Guilt and blame are useless. They have no place in the discussions of a deliberate creator. What’s done is done. It is what it is. The only question that matters now is “Who has the power to do something about it?

Don’t throw your life away by answering that question with anyone else’s name beside your own.

No matter what anyone appears to be doing to you, there is always an adjustment you can make that will bring about positive changes.

Wayne Dyer says “responsibility is the power to respond with ability.”

Are you ready to take your power back?

Today I choose to embrace my personal power by taking responsibility, not blame, for all aspects of my life.

T.K. Coleman

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