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Love: Before & After

Life often takes the form of a two-fold battle:

  1. Learning to love yourself enough to pursue your dreams even when others hate you for it.
  2. Learning to love yourself again after you’ve pursued your dreams, failed to realize them, and lost your pride in the process.

Self-love: Sometimes we need it in order to be our best. Sometimes we need it precisely because we aren’t our best.

Sometimes we need it in order to motivate us to work. Sometimes we need it precisely because motivation doesn’t always work.

Sometimes we need it in order to create new beginnings. Sometimes we need it in order to make peace with our endings.

I’ve never consider myself a hopeless romantic, but there’s at least one thing I’ve always admired about them: They find a way to make love survive even when they can’t keep all their dreams alive.

You should do the same.

Love yourself enough to go after what you want, but don’t stop loving yourself just because you fail to get it.

Before and after your dreams, your life is still worth fighting for.


What it Really Takes to be Creative


I recently wrote a post for Medium entitled Creativity isn’t Sexy. Creativity is about Creating. In that post, I discussed one of the biggest myths about creativity that prevents many would-be artists from doing the work they so deeply desire to do.

Since publishing that article, one of the producers from Cliff Central contacted me and asked me to be a guest on the Kellman Show to discuss some of my ideas. We spoke this morning about failure, hard work, and the difference between creativity and eccentricity. If you’d like to hear our conversation, you can check out the show by clicking on the link below.

T.K. Coleman on the Kellman Show


The irony of obsessing over what works…

… is that it usually leads to the very opposite of actual work.

People who wait on guarantees rarely ever get started. People who act on their interests, even when they act imperfectly or unsuccessfully, end up doing things that result in a greater sense of confidence and creativity.

Moving in the direction of what moves you is much more productive than agonizing over what will work.

Paradoxically, it works better too.

A Lesson From Michael Jordan on Being Too Good To Be Ignored

This week on the Praxis Blog, I wrote an article entitled Failure, Rejection, & The Myth of Overlooked Genius.

In this post, I analyze the misconception that success stories are mostly about geniuses whose talent went overlooked until, through persistence and self-belief, those geniuses finally found someone who could see their true value.

I observe:

Valuable lessons about the relationship between success and professional development are often lost in oversimplified narratives about how some High-School coach, Hollywood agent, Venture Capitalist, or Book Publisher was just too stupid to realize excellence even when it was staring them in the face.

In many cases, rejection, far from being rooted in unfair misunderstandings, is the very catalyst that motivates individuals with raw talent to polish their skills and develop their potential until they become too good to be ignored.

If you’d like to check out my thoughts, click here.


T.K. Coleman

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