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I go dancing with my thoughts

Have you ever danced with a thought? Have you ever made love to an idea?

Do those questions sound crazy to you?

Well, what about these questions;

Have you ever disagreed with a thought? Have you ever analyzed an idea?

Why does the first set of questions sound so absurd while the other questions seem perfectly normal?

If you’re open, I would like to invite you to play around for a moment with a different way of thinking about thinking.

None of what follows is the absolute truth. It’s just a thought experiment. But some interesting discoveries can be made while conducting thought-experiments, so let’s see where this one takes us.

Light, sound, and perception

Basic Physics tells us that an electromagnetic wave is experienced as light when it is perceived with the eye.

That same electromagnetic wave is experienced as sound when perceived with the ear.

One wave.
 
The same vibratory activity.
 
Two different ways of experiencing it.

Whether or not you SEE LIGHT or HEAR SOUND all depends on the organ you use to apprehend electromagnetic wave activity.

The reality behind these two varying experiences is the same, but it’s the way we process it that determines if we perceive it as light, sound, or something altogether different.

Here’s my question for you:

If there’s more than one way to experience electromagnetic energy, is it also possible that there is more than one way to experience other familiar forms of energy? 

Is there more than one way to experience a thought?

In a way that is analogous to electromagnetic energy, what we call “thoughts” can be viewed as a form of mental energy. From one point of view, thoughts can be described as ”the vibratory activity of consciousness.” Let’s call them “thought-waves” for now. 

When we attempt to apprehend “thought-waves” with the mind, we experience them as ideas.

What we call an “idea” can be viewed as merely one way of experiencing “thought-waves.”

Now, what if “thought-waves” are more than just ideas? What if they also have an inner core or energetic essence that can be directly felt with the heart?

The mind can certainly lead to many interesting discoveries, but what if the heart can take us straight to the inner essence of an “idea”?

In other words, what if the energy behind an idea was expressing something that could be grasped differently or more fully with the heart?

The Energy behind the activity of thought

For ages, mystics and poets have affirmed that Consciousness or Infinite Intelligence is the Source and Substance of all that is.

They claimed to experience the activity of this Consciousness as a Living Energy and a Felt Presence.

This Energy, we’re told, isn’t just mathematical. It’s also musical. It vibrates. It moves. It’s also personal. It feels. It breathes. 

This Energy, they say, does not wish to be contemplated with the mind alone. It wishes to be engaged with the heart. It longs to connect with us at a level of experience that transcends the boundaries of thought. 

Bringing Ideas to life

We’ve been taught that ideas are lifeless.  But are they?

We’ve been trained to see concepts as cold and abstract. But are they?

We’ve been conditioned to think of thoughts as impersonal. But are they?

What if the millions of thoughts that pass us by on any given day are not JUST thoughts?

What if so-called “ideas”are simply our head’s one dimensional interpretation of a higher multidimensional reality?

What if we just haven’t been taught how to perceive this energy we experience as thoughts in a way that goes beyond the mind?

Thinking with the heart-brain

Eastern Orthodox monks often spoke of something called “The Prayer of the Heart” where a state is attained in which “the mind descends into the heart.”

The “Prayer of the Heart” is a form of meditation that is said to lead to a mode of knowing that transcends logic. Through this state one is able to directly encounter the “Uncreated Energy of God” which lies behind all phenomena, mental and physical.

What would happen if we all dared to “wax monastic” a bit by thinking with our heart-brain rather than JUST using our head-brain?

What kinds of experiences are we capable of opening ourselves up to when we playfully explore life in this manner?

What we regard as mystical or supernatural just might become more of the norm.

We just might find ourselves doing seemingly magical things like dancing with our thoughts and making love to our ideas.

If such a concept sounds unthinkable, then perhaps that’s a clue that there’s room for us to open up to broader ways of thinking.

But that’s just a feeling I have.

Feel me?

T.K. Coleman

“Prove to me my thoughts create my reality!”

Note: There were some technical problems with the WordPress server this weekend and some subscribers reported having not received post updates in their email. So if you missed yesterday’s post, “Good girls, bad guys, and the law of attraction“, be sure to check it out. I’ve also made significant revisions to Law of Attraction or “Opposites Attract?” if you’re interested.
 
I’ve been on a “law of attraction” kick for the last couple of days so I thought I’d share my two cents on a question that gets raised quite frequently by those who are considering the possibility that by changing their thoughts they can change their lives. I hope you enjoy. Cheers 🙂 -T.K.
 

The million dollar question:

 
“How can I know my thoughts create my own reality?”

Questioning the questions

A freshman philosophy student decided to stump his Professor one day;

 “Hey Teacher, prove to me that I exist!”

The teacher didn’t miss a beat. He shot right back;

“I would love to, but whom shall I say is asking the question?”

Sometimes we can arrive at the best answers simply by questioning the questions.

In a similar way, it might be helpful to challenge yourself to provide an example of how a person’s thoughts DO NOT create their reality. 

BUT BEFORE YOU DO THAT….

Reality versus Experience

I would start by making the distinction between “Reality” and “Experience.”

“Reality” refers to the world. It refers to what is actually happening independently of anyone’s perceptions, beliefs, feelings, etc.

“Experience” refers to the way in which a particular individual perceives, processes, and reacts to “Reality.”

When proponents of the Law of Attraction say “you create your own reality”, they are not saying you can uproot a tree from the ground just by visualizing it for a few minutes using Harry Potter styled magic mind power. They are referring to the control you have over your own personal experience of Reality. 

Although there may seem to be a single Reality we all occupy, we each experience this Reality differently because every person has a unique way of perceiving, processing, and reacting to the world.
 

A lesson from dogs about perception and reality

Here’s a simple example:

Scientists tell us the spectrum of sound extends indefinitely in both directions. This means there are sounds we can’t detect because they lie outside the range of human hearing.

Dog whistles prove this. A room can be very noisy to a dog while seeming silent to a man. This clearly illustrates how we do not experience reality as it “actually” is. We experience reality only in accordance with how our perceptual filters have processed it.

Is the room REALLY quiet or is it REALLY noisy? Well, which one IS it? It all depends on who you ask. Are you asking the dog? Or the man? When a man says “it’s quiet in here”, he’s not describing the room. He’s describing the way in which he’s experiencing the room. This is true of all things.

We often speak of how things are, but we’re really just telling a story about how we are experiencing things. This is what the philosophers were getting at when they asked “Is the glass half empty or half full?” Well, it depends. As Bill Cosby quipped “Are you drinking or pouring?”

Life is exactly as you think it is

Our beliefs, expectations, moods, assumptions, etc., act as perceptual filters that literally color and shape our world into a unique personal experience.

When you’re in a good mood and everything has been going your way, you may not mind when someone steps on your toe. They apologize and you say “it’s all good!” But when everything seems to be going wrong, someone stepping on your toe might honestly seem as if the universe is conspiring against you. You might stub your toe and say “I can’t BUY a break!” Now if you’re in a REALLY good mood, you might be happy with the opportunity to say “hello” to the guy who stepped on your toe which might lead to making a new friend. One event, three experiences.

The difference between an opportunity, an incident, and a conspiracy can all come down to how you process reality with your thoughts. The same guy can be a “loser”, a “saint”, a “lunatic”, or “the funniest cat ever” to 4 different people.

So…back to the challenge. Try to observe  some facet of reality from a purely neutral perspective. Describe anything in a way that is not influenced by your own personal vantage point. This simple little exercise may help illuminate a very basic idea;

You can’t observe the world without observing it from your perspective.

Even when you ask others what their take is, you are filtering their descriptions through your perspective. So it always comes back to you.

Your thoughts create your experience because you can’t have an experience, by definition, until you take Reality and mix it up with your thoughts.

At least that’s how I see it over here in my reality 🙂

What do you think?

T.K. Coleman

Update: A friend of mine just informed me that I should not limit the capacity of our human potential by implying that we can NOT uproot trees. I stand corrected. Folks, if you put your mind to it, you can even uproot the tree 🙂

86% of your week is problem free Pt 2

Yesterday’s post (click here to read) addressed the idea that our problems, measured as physical events occurring in real-time, constitute a very small percentage of  our actual lives. Yet, these “small” problems seem to set the tone of our entire day. A 15 minute argument with a co-worker can amount to a week’s worth of sleeplessness. Let’s talk a bit about why this happens.

Most problems are imaginary

One of the primary reasons that small problems seem to consume so much of our energy is because we’re conditioned to use our imagination against ourselves.

Not only do we argue with the “jerks” at work, but we take them home with us in our imaginations and continue our debates. We fantasize about what we should have said or will say next time. Not only do we embarrass ourselves at work, but we actively choose to subject ourselves to the experience over and over again by reenacting it in our imagination.

It’s bad enough when others seem to create trouble for us. It’s even tougher when we create trouble for ourselves by voluntarily meditating on unpleasant experiences.

It seems that in many cases where “bad” events do happen to us, our greatest problem lies in how we use our imaginations to sustain and amplify the existence of the event.

If you can’t find it on a map, it’s in your mind

As physical events, most of your unpleasant encounters don’t even exist anymore. They’re nowhere “out there” for you to find.

That embarrassing moment you had last month when you put your foot in your mouth? You’d have to hop into a time machine to find it now.

The guy who cut you off in traffic this morning is not in front of you right now. He’s somewhere having the time of his life at a pool party while you can’t even enjoy your dinner because you keep talking about him.

Get inside of your own head before someone else does

Most of your troubles exist primarily in the mental world of memory, imagination, and interpretation.

If you can just get control of that, you can significantly reduce the amount of daily stress, frustration, and unhappiness you feel.

Resist the temptation to start dwelling on the things you can’t change (ie. past events that don’t exist anymore).

Focus more on what’s going on inside of you and you’ll have a lot more psychological and physical energy available for the more difficult problems.

In the future, I’ll be talking more about how you can reduce stress by reorganizing and gaining more control over the contents of consciousness.

For now, that’s today’s two cents.

Cheers,

T.K. Coleman

86% of your week is problem free

 
Conflict is an idea that exist primarily in the mind. As I minimize conflict in my thoughts, I reduce conflict in my experience.

90% mind, 10% matter

Have you ever heard the idea that your world is 90% mind, 10% matter?

It’s been well said that “life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it”. Let’s really think about this for a moment, because this would be a very important concept if it’s actually true.

Even if we can’t do anything about 10% of our lives, 90% is still an awfully high percentage to maintain control over. Most people I know would be thrilled if they could just improve their lives by a mere 50%.

What’s the bottom line?

Let’s conduct a thought experiment.

Close your eyes and imagine an unpleasant experience from your past. It can be an argument with a friend, an embarrassing moment at work, whatever makes you feel unpleasant. Take your time and relive that experience thoroughly. Done?

Now ask yourself “how long was that event in real-time?” How much time did you actually spend arguing with your friend or embarrassing yourself at work? Please keep in mind the fact that I am not asking you to measure how long the problem affected you? I only want you to calculate how long the physical event of being in the presence of the problem actually lasted.

Do the math

While most of our unpleasant experiences may be relatively short-lived, let’s just assume that your experience lasted for a full, non-stop, uninterrupted period of 24hrs.

Now take 24hrs and divide that by the number of hours you’ve lived in the past week (168hrs per week).

24hrs/168hrs= 0.14

So that problem, measured as a physical event, constitutes about 14% of your life in the past week alone.

Is this not astonishing?

How can an unpleasant event that only comprises a meager 14% of our entire week, dominate our whole lives?

In Tomorrow’s post, I’ll give my two cents on why we allow “the 14%”, or what Richard Carlson called “the small stuff”, to push us around and block us from the life of happiness that is rightfully ours.

I hope you’ll join me. In the meantime, keep your head up.

Cheers 🙂

T.K. Coleman

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