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Responsibility and blame

Responsibility and Blame are not the same.

Blame is the act of attributing fault or guilt to someone in response to an unwanted result.

Responsibility is the act of assuming a leadership role in a given situation.

Taking personal responsibility for everything that happens in your life doesn’t mean that you blame yourself for the bad things that occur.

It simply means that you don’t place your destiny in the hands of someone else by waiting around for THEM to make the adjustments that have to be made in order for YOU to be happy.

The power to make a difference always lies with you.

When you explain your disappointments in terms of what someone or something is doing to you, you give this power away.

There’s no need to blame yourself for not getting what you want. But there’s also no need for you to deny your creative ability to turn any situation around.

Guilt and blame are useless. They have no place in the discussions of a deliberate creator. What’s done is done. It is what it is. The only question that matters now is “Who has the power to do something about it?

Don’t throw your life away by answering that question with anyone else’s name beside your own.

No matter what anyone appears to be doing to you, there is always an adjustment you can make that will bring about positive changes.

Wayne Dyer says “responsibility is the power to respond with ability.”

Are you ready to take your power back?

Today I choose to embrace my personal power by taking responsibility, not blame, for all aspects of my life.

T.K. Coleman

Why I value being creative more than being positive

For many people, “being positive” amounts to trying really hard to be a good sport who laughs a lot and gets along with everyone.

But this image of optimism fails to account for all of the healthy, successful people who don’t seem to be friendly, upbeat, or outwardly cheerful at all.

While I freely embrace conventional terms like “positivity”, “optimism”, and “happiness”, in actual practice I tend to be very broad and flexible with how I apply so-called “principles of positive thinking” to my daily life.

I don’t believe success, happiness, and health are the result of “positive thinking” as much as they are the result of “empowered thinking.” For me, optimism isn’t about fitting any one person’s definition of what it means to be positive. Optimism is about finding whatever approach works for you in the quest to create the kind of life you truly love.

It’s far more important that you develop your own process for creating desired results (whether you desire happiness, wealth, or anything else), than striving to outdo the guy who walks around with a smile on his face 7 days a week.

If having a serious face helps you to focus more, then the smiles can wait for a later time.

If you’ve found a way to successfully channel the feeling of anger along creative lines, may the force be with you.

Forget about the positivity stereotypes. Trying to conform to them is a big pain in the tush.

After all, the value of your life isn’t determined by how positive others think you are, but by what works and feels right for you.

That’s my two cents. What do you think?

T.K. Coleman

If you liked this post, check out:

1. Perkiness & positivity are two different things

2. What to do when being positive feels fake?

3. Must An Optimist Always Be Positive?

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