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The irony of obsessing over what works…

… is that it usually leads to the very opposite of actual work.

People who wait on guarantees rarely ever get started. People who act on their interests, even when they act imperfectly or unsuccessfully, end up doing things that result in a greater sense of confidence and creativity.

Moving in the direction of what moves you is much more productive than agonizing over what will work.

Paradoxically, it works better too.

A Lesson From Michael Jordan on Being Too Good To Be Ignored

This week on the Praxis Blog, I wrote an article entitled Failure, Rejection, & The Myth of Overlooked Genius.

In this post, I analyze the misconception that success stories are mostly about geniuses whose talent went overlooked until, through persistence and self-belief, those geniuses finally found someone who could see their true value.

I observe:

Valuable lessons about the relationship between success and professional development are often lost in oversimplified narratives about how some High-School coach, Hollywood agent, Venture Capitalist, or Book Publisher was just too stupid to realize excellence even when it was staring them in the face.

In many cases, rejection, far from being rooted in unfair misunderstandings, is the very catalyst that motivates individuals with raw talent to polish their skills and develop their potential until they become too good to be ignored.

If you’d like to check out my thoughts, click here.


T.K. Coleman

Success is not about being an expert on success

There’s a difference between being an expert and being someone who gets what he wants.

When my wife said “yes” to my marriage proposal, I got what I wanted. That doesn’t make me an expert on relationships.

I don’t have a happy marriage because I know what women want or because I understand “the 10 secrets of marital success.” I have a happy marriage because, through an ongoing process of trial and error, I’ve become skillful at the very specific art of harmoniously co-existing with my wife.

Here’s today’s two cents:

Success is not about being an expert on success, an expert on spirituality, an expert on creativity, an expert on happiness, an expert on relationships, an expert on money, or an expert on anything other than you and the particular details that define your situation.

It’s about deciding what you want and finding a way of creating it that’s effective for you.

It’s about pushing past your own crap, overcoming your own excuses, stoking your own fires, and finding your own answers.

It’s about having no idea how you’re going to make it work and, then, making it work anyway.

You will not get what you want simply by listening to experts or by trying to become one yourself.

Whatever you achieve, you will achieve it by confronting your own demons, sorting out your own madness, drawing your own maps, and building your own bridges.

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