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REFUSE TO GET BITTER

I refuse to get bitter. Not because I love other people so much, but because I love myself too much to allow my positive energy to be wasted and consumed by the hatred of another person.

We have all been offended at some point in our lives. We have all felt betrayed or let down.

The temptation to harbor feelings of resentment towards someone who seems to create inconveniences in our lives is present on an almost daily basis.

I am not here to tell you to go find your enemies and give them a hug. I am here to tell you to have enough respect for your future to let it go.

“Just like that?”

Just like that!

The moment you allow yourself to be filled with bitterness, you have just become a psychological slave to the person you are angry at. The only way you can free yourself is by liberating that other person from the prison of unforgiveness that you are holding them in.

I know it’s not easy, but your destiny is at stake.

In the end, resentment is the ultimate enemy. It robs you of your focus and rapidly diminishes your creative powers.

For the sake of your purpose in life. For the sake of your higher good. For the sake of your own health. For the sake of those whom you have been called to positively influence, choose to forgive.

That’s today’s two cents.

Peace,

T.K. Coleman

The Possible Self

 
 I worship the possibilities within myself. I now give praise to the unmanifest dimensions of my being.

Self-respect is the only suitable attitude to adopt towards a person of your status. If you had any idea of what your true nature was, you would fall on your knees and honor yourself like royalty.

The actor who forgot he was playing a role

We live in a world where people are honored on the basis of what they do for a living.

Should a celebrity or a high-ranking political official walk into a room, many of us would scramble about in a frenzy to ensure that such individuals received treatment and respect of the highest order.

The mere experience of being spoken to by such people is sufficient in some cases to produce a slight increase in our sense of self-worth.

Such experiences condition us to identify who we are with the roles that we play in life. We move about in this world as if we were professionals, students, mothers, children, co-workers, etc. In reality, these roles we play are merely finite expressions of the boundless essence that we truly are.

We are like actors who have become so absorbed in our roles that we have mistaken the character we are portraying for the actual person that we are.

You are more than your personality

The word “personality” is derived from the latin term “persona” which means “mask”. If we take etymology seriously, in this case, the implication is that our personalities are only masks concealing the broader identity of our Real Self.

A mask is not an intrinsically bad thing. It is a great device for exhibiting and exploring certain character traits. A mask can become a great hinderance, however, if one mistakes it for his Real Self.

The Real Self is not merely non-physical, but it is also trans-personal. Just as our bodies are physical extensions and expressions of our non-physical personality, our personalities are psychological extensions and expressions of our trans-personal essence.

In other words, we are all inconceivably more than what we think we are. We are not our jobs, our dreams, our experiences, or even our ranking on the social ladder. We are individualized expressions of The Infinite. As such, we all are worthy of praise.

I salute the divinity within you

There is a greeting which comes from Indian culture by the name of “Namaste.” It comes from the Sanskrit term “Namas” which means “to salute, bow, or adore.” One interpretation of the word “Namaste” is “I salute the divinity within you.” It is a greeting which honors the “divine spark” in all whom we encounter. This parallels neatly, in my opinion, with the declaration in The Book of Genesis that we have all been created in the “image and likeness of God.”

Experiencing life’s fullest capacity for true joy and lasting success requires that we look deeply enough into ourselves until we discover that Inner Radiance which is the source, substance, and space of the little self we think we are.

There are worlds of possibility lying beyond the limited perception of self we refer to as “me.”

Our recognition of and reverence for this Real Self is the key which unlocks the door to these hidden dimensions existing within our own being.

Are you ready to walk through that door?

T.K. Coleman.

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My life is a prayer. My existence is an act of meditation.

“It is easy in solitude to live after your own; but the great man is he who in the midst of the crowd keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude.” -Ralph Walso Emerson
 
I am capable of finding my alignment under any conditions. I possess the flexibility necessary to connect to my Highest Self even when I am busy and on the go. Whether I am alone or in a crowd, I know how to maintain a positive vibration. By learning to see everyone and everything as an expression of Source-Energy, I can transform every experience into an opportunity for enlightenment, expansion, and evolution.

Prayer and meditation are not isolated activities separate from the whole of life. They are states of consciousness where my attention and intention is directed towards the higher energies of Spirit. Through patience, practice, and persistent self-love, I can cultivate this state of consciousness.

I do not always have to be doing what I love in order to feel my connection to God.

When I am doing what I do not love, I will find that which is loveable in what I am doing. When I am with who I do not love, I will find that which is loveable in who I am with. When I am in places I do not love, I will find that which is loveable in the places I am in.

Unconditional Love means there is no condition, however stressful or unpleasant, where I am incapable of focusing on and finding that which is an expression of the God who is Love.

Nothing can get in the way of my alignment because I have the divine ability to use every situation as a tool with which to facilitate and further my own evolution. No one can interfere with my ability to connect with Source, because I know how to see the Source in everyone.

From this state of knowing, I declare that my life is a prayer. I affirm my existence as an act of meditation.

I do not need to go to an exotic place or a quiet space in order to find resonance with the peace and power within. The place where I am is my place of connection.

Now is the moment. Now is the opportunity. Now is the freedom I have always sought.

It is so and so it is!

T.K. Coleman

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Don’t Punish yourself Pt. 2

There’s nothing wrong with you

My personal problem with the whole “motivate myself with guilt & self-condemnation” approach is that it rests on what I perceive to be a flawed assumption about human nature.

It assumes that who you are is essentially bad and can’t be trusted. If you are left to your own devices, you will ultimately self-destruct or at least wreak a great deal of havoc. Your essential being is NOT intrinsically creative and unless you are motivated by discontent, dissatisfaction, and disapproval, you’ll just sit around all day doing nothing good or productive.

According to this view, the worst thing you can do is accept yourself unconditionally because then you’ll become complacent or perhaps even a sociopath. In other words, something is fundamentally wrong with you. Guilt, self loathing, and the rules that usually follow are there to keep you in line.

You are more than free to adopt that perspective if you wish, but I’d like to offer you an alternative view.

It’s not you. It’s not me. It’s our ideas about you and me.

I invite you to entertain the possibility that your true nature is essentially good; that you are an intrinsically creative being and when left to your own devices, you will innovate, invent, and inspire at every turn; that you don’t need guilt to keep yourself in line because you’re not some screw up just waiting to be turned loose; that self acceptance, contrary to popular belief, actually brings out the best in you; that when you love your wounds, you heal them; that when you forgive yourself, your sins are dissolved; that when you accept yourself as is, your hidden beauty truly begins to disclose itself.

I believe that love is alchemy. Whatever we love is transformed by the light of that love. The power of love transmutes whatever it’s  focused on and causes its inner radiance to shine forth. Like the princess who kisses the frog and thereby turns it into a prince, the daring posture of unconditional self-love alchemizes our lives into something that proves worthy of adoration.

Every time you hate yourself, the devil smiles.

“But aren’t we all sinners in the hands of an angry God? Are we not fallen creatures who can’t be trusted? What about the whole Original Sin thing we learned back in Sunday School?”

This concern arises from the story of the Garden of Eden found in the book of Genesis. According to that story, Mankind lived perfectly until an act of sin caused them to “fall from grace” and inherit a corrupt nature in the process.

Here’s my two cents on that:

I am on the side of those who believe that at a prior time in history, we once knew who we were. At some point, humanity “went wrong.”

The question we must ask, however, is “where did humanity go wrong?”

I’m sure there are many answers to that question, each of them with varying degrees of depth. What follows is not the full extent of what can be said on such a broad philosophical topic.

My contention is that Humanity went wrong when we bought into the lie that life was something other than already perfect and complete.

Man was already created in the image of God and didn’t need to do anything special to become God-like, abundant, or happy. These states were his already existing birthrights.

According to the Genesis story, itself, the fundamental cause of sin and death was man’s decision to believe that his life was missing something and in order to fill the void, he needed to compensate with his own achievement.  Dr. Myles Munroe said it this way:

The root of man’s frustrations is his misconception of self.

When we treat ourselves as if we’re something less than expressions of God, we reenact the tragedy depicted in the Garden of Eden story and we perpetuate the problem of human suffering.

Every time we hate ourselves, the devil smiles. For he knows that in our act of self-rejection, we have temporarily deviated from The Source of all love from which our true nature arises.

Let us abandon all ideas which point us away from the truth of who we are.

Let us return to the Reality of Unconditional Love that created us.

Let us affirm our worthiness of that love; a worthiness not based on effort, but a worthiness grounded in the fact that we are made out of the very substance of this Love and cannot be separate from it except by our own choosing.

So I challenge you to STOP, RIGHT NOW!! Right where you are…in THIS moment and not the NEXT….EMBRACE YOURSELF!

Love yourself, respect yourself, and affirm the very best of yourself.

“But…but…I wasn’t positive today.”

Well, be positive about THAT.

Make peace with who and where you are now BEFORE you prove yourself to God or the world and you’ll be amazed at what starts to come out of you.

At least that’s the way I see it.

How do you see it? Better yet, how do you see yourself? Why?

I’d love to hear your thoughts.

T.K. Coleman

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Don’t Punish Yourself

No matter how much I disappoint myself or others, I’m going to keep believing in myself. I’m going to keep doing the best I know how. I may feel like a loser at times, but I’m going to persist in looking for the qualities within myself that evince greatness. As I look for evidence of  beauty, genius, and magnificence in my own being, I cause those attributes to shape my thoughts and take form in my experience.

No pain, no gain?

When was the last time you heard someone or even yourself say something like…

“I’m such a horrible person. I try to be positive but I always get so frustrated when xyz happens.”

Our guilt-driven models for motivation makes the above statement sound quite normal and sane. It falls right in line with an all too common thought process:

1) Observe a personal failure

2) Punish ourselves with thoughts of self-condemnation

3) Cultivate a strong feeling of guilt in order to avoid doing it again

4) Maintain a sense of dissatisfaction and disapproval until we’ve proven that we’re sorry by making positive changes.

Sound familiar?

Punishment doesn’t work

Well, here’s my two cents:

This way of thinking, far from helping us actualize our true potential, only solidifies our consciousness in a pessimistic, disempowered state.

We can’t empower what we refuse to first embrace. We must dare to love and forgive ourselves even when we seem most unlovable and unforgivable.

On the surface, this may seem a bit backwards. I can hear the well-meaning skeptic ponder:

“If I allow myself to feel good about who I am right now, then wont I lose all my motivation for positive change?”

If that is YOUR question, then I ask you the following: “Is that approach working for you? If you’ve been beating yourself up when you fail, has that practice helped you create the happiness you desire yet?”

If not, might I prescribe for you the wisdom of Mike Murdock?

 “If you want something you’ve never had, you must do something you’ve never done.”

In tomorrow’s post, I’ll share my two cents on how I see human nature and what that has to say about the pursuit, the possibility, and the power of happiness.

I hope you’ll stop by.

 Cheers,

 T.K. Coleman

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