Though I assume many forms, the essence of what I am remains formless.
In my last post, I opened up a discussion on the issue of “excuses”. You can read that post here. I ended by saying I would “give you my two cents on the critical component to successfully creating the results you desire in any area of life.” Well, here goes…
Stop talking to your Ex(cuse)
You must find a way to forego the luxury of having excuses. Plain & simple. You have a right to your excuses, but being right wont always get you want you want. Your parents will understand, but your heart will never be content. You must learn to love making things happen more than you love being sympathized with for not doing what you really want to do.
When we make up our minds to consciously evolve in some aspect of life, it’s as if the Universe decides to “test” us by sending several fantastic reasons our way for why it would be completely okay if we decided to quit or procrastinate.
People who wish to take charge of their lives must resolve to decline those invitations as much as possible.
The real “why”
If you fail to do the work you were created to do, the people who truly love you will most likely understand your reasons why.
You’re not here on this Earth for the sole purpose of being understood by the people who truly love you. You could be loved by everyone on the planet and still be miserable.
The real reason why you’re here is to do the work you’ve been uniquely created to do. Those who find a way to conquer their excuses and engage in this work, know the difference between existing and being alive. The philosopher and civil rights leader, Howard Thurman, advises“Ask not what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and then go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”
One of the deepest sources of joy in this life comes from voluntary involvement in the process of creating something you love. Whether you actually “succeed” or not is irrelevant. It’s the sensation of being alive, of flowing harmoniously with the energy of who you know you’re supposed to be that comprises genuine satisfaction. This satisfaction is the real “why” that you’re looking for. The reason “why” you’re not experiencing that satisfaction is the cheap imitation. It looks good and it might fool others, but you’ll always know for yourself that it falls short of the real thing.
What excuses can and can’t do
Excuses can appease your guilt, but they can’t alleviate the pain of an unlived life.
Excuses provide you with reasons, but they don’t protect you from regrets.
Excuses can make you look good in the short-term, but they never make you feel good in the long-term.
Excuses are great, but they do not create.
Only YOU can create and you can’t do that until you say goodbye to some really good excuses first.
If you feel the achievement of your personal goals is being hindered by difficult to overcome excuses, stay tuned. In the future, I will return to this topic and offer some personal suggestions for how we can get around them. It’s a learning process for all of us and it will take some work, but our happiness is well worth the effort.
For now, if you’ll excuse me, I have some creating to go do. I hope you do too. Either way, I’m glad you stopped by for a cent or two.
An excuse would not be an excuse if wasn’t at least somewhat reasonable. The presence of logic is precisely what separates an excuse from just plain ol’ hogwash. There’s another word I could use here, but my Dad’s a pastor and he reads my blogs now so I need to keep things PG-13. That’s an honest excuse. I’m not hogwashing.
Hogwash vs Excuses
“Hogwash” is pure nonsense. In fact, it’s so nonsensical that the person who’s telling it doesn’t even believe what they’re saying. Statements like “My dog ate my homework” is just plain ol’ hogwash. It’s a way to keep the conversation going in order to avoid confronting the real issue at hand.
An “excuse” is a logical sounding explanation for why a given result was not obtained. “I have the flu and have thrown up three times already and it’s not even noon yet” is an excuse.
Hogwash is obnoxious. Excuses are respectable.
The subtle danger of excuses
The most dangerous thing about an excuse is that, although they are far more intelligent and socially acceptable than hogwash, they ultimately produce the same net results. The only difference between a hogwasher and a man with a good excuse is that one of them has a respectable reason for not getting anything done and the other lacks a respectable reason for not getting anything done. But in the end they both still get nothing done. By “getting nothing done”, I’m specifically referring to the process of avoiding what you love whether you’re physically active or not.
I fully excuse your excuses
Before you conclude that I’m a cruel insensitive jerk, let me be clear about the fact that I don’t think there’s anything morally wrong with not getting things done. This is not an essay on how I think you should live your life. If you don’t spend your time and energy following your own bliss, I harbor no judgement towards you at all. I don’t find you annoying. I don’t think you’re a lazy idiot. I don’t think you need to change. In fact, I don’t even think excuses are bad. Sometimes, an excuse here or there seems necessary. So, if you feel passionate about excuses in any way, I’m glad to let you know that we can still harmoniously coexist on this planet.
For the person who wants to get the most out of life, there must be a clear understanding of the following fact:
Being great at creating what you love is not the same as being great at explaining why you are not creating what you love.
If you need heart surgery, do you want the doctor who’s great at heart surgery or do you want the friendly lovable awesome guy with a totally understandable reason for why his inability to finish medical school was completely beyond his control?
More importantly, if it was your dream to be a heart surgeon, which one of those people would you rather be?
In tomorrow’s post, I will give you my two cents on the critical component to successfully creating the results you desire in any area of life.
I hope you’ll join me for the dialogue. In the meantime, make it a great day.
Click here for “Excuses are great, but they don’t create.” Part II
This world is filled with many important icons & idols, but none of them are more important than you. The television is saturated with many interesting shows and stars, but none of them are more interesting than you. Our world is furnished with many fascinating works and wonders, but none of them are more fascinating than you.
This is how I know you’re cool
Here’s a short argument for your magnificence:
Premise 1: The entire cosmos is an expression of Divine Beauty.
Premise 2: You are a particular example of God’s brilliance.
Conclusion: Therefore, you are second to no one and no thing.
In other words “Aint nobody cooler than you!”
This is not a manifesto for how shallow, stupid, or superficial celebrities, television shows, and tourist sites are. There is no need to attack anyone else’s brilliance in order to affirm your own. Your significance does not depend on you being better than something or someone else. It’s all good because it’s all God.
This is how I know I’m cool
I have an affirmation I say every morning immediately upon waking up: “I am the infinity of God individualized as me.” This tough-minded confession reminds me that I have the permission and the power to be a radiant, dynamic, and unparalleled presence in this world. You don’t have to say affirmations in the morning to know this. That is one of my personal ways, but the key is to find your way.
This is how you know you’re cool for yourself
My loving, but tough-minded, challenge for you today is to brainstorm ways of cultivating a consciousness of your own divinity. Try associating more with people who actually influence you to feel good about yourself. Read books or watch youtube videos that convince or remind you of your immense value. Listen more to uplifting music. These are only suggestions to help kickstart your own process of exploration. Let your feelings lead you on this one. If it makes you feel like a loser, it’s not working. If it makes you feel “cool”, then you’ve struck a harmonious personal chord.
Your heroes are still cool, but….
There is nothing wrong with celebrating your favorite athlete, actress, or affinity. In all things, follow your bliss. But in doing so, don’t underestimate how worthy you, your life, and your dreams are of a little affection and attention.
That’s my two cents, friends. I’m hoping you invest it in your own rising stock. Cool?