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You ARE the opportunity: Moving beyond ideas of scarcity & competition Pt 2

In my last post, I  promised to give you my two cents on why I think it’s misguided to place faith in the world of consensus opinion, market research, familial support, & historical precedent as a reliable place to look when trying to figure out who you are and what you should do with your life. If you’d like to read the most recent post, click here. For the conclusion of that post, continue reading. I hope you enjoy.

The crowd doesn’t know what it wants until you tell them

The problem with relying on external forms of guidance to validate your personal convictions and creative impulses is that, more often than not, the world has no clue what it wants or needs until someone with a vision goes out and creates it first.

The very society in which we live is anchored in technologies and tools that the masses never requested or demanded. Once those inventions were created, however, the world expanded and made room for them. Now, we can’t imagine living without these previously unnecessary commodities.

Henry Ford is known for having said “If I would have listened to my customers, I would’ve given them a faster horse.”

It’s ALWAYS a bad time to follow your heart

Ford’s story is not the exception. It’s the general rule.

Every story of successful people, tells the narrative of an individual who dared to take risks BEFORE they had an audience, BEFORE they had an oscar award, BEFORE they had a record contract, BEFORE they had a single customer, BEFORE they had a book deal, BEFORE their skills were fully polished, BEFORE they had mastered their craft, BEFORE anyone in their families said “I believe in you”, or BEFORE some other seemingly essential component was already in place.

One of the harshest realities of life is that the world is never going to give you permission to act on your dreams.

Being yourself actually works

One of the most liberating insights you’ll ever discover is the realization that you don’t need the world’s permission anyway, because the universe was designed to accommodate your dreams.

Being yourself actually works. Self-Authenticity, when consistently practiced, causes you to attract the conditions, relationships, opportunities, ideas, and resources you need to fulfill your vision.

When we wait until we get enough money, time, or status, to follow our inner callings, we remain stuck in the same cycles of misery and malcontent. Life really works the other way around. It’s the willingness to act on Faith that brings the money, time, status, or whatever else is required.

You’ll have what it takes when you know you already have what it takes

You have what it takes to make it, but you’ll never make it until you realize that you have what it takes to make it BEFORE anyone else agrees with you.

Don’t wait on the evidence. It’s not going to show up until you do first.

Don’t wait on a following. They wont show up until you take the lead.

Don’t wait on anyone to encourage you. Others will provide encouragement after you learn to encourage yourself.

Don’t wait for anyone to take you seriously. When you take yourself seriously, the world will eventually catch on.

Don’t wait for anyone to give you an opportunity. Be the opportunity.

Move beyond the  ideas of scarcity and competition by trusting your ability to make the world adjust to you.

That’s all I have to say today, folks.

This is your advancement advocate, T.K. Coleman, and that’s my two cents

CREATE a great day!

You ARE the opportunity: Moving beyond ideas of scarcity & competition

“A man’s gift will make room for him and give him access to great men.” -Proverbs 18:16

We live with the idea that we occupy a prepackaged world where all of the opportunities that will ever exist are already out there and our job is to find our place in that world.

The Jewish Proverb above challenges us to envision an expanding universe where the world literally creates space for the expression of our gifts when we act on them in Faith. It doesn’t say there will BE room for our gifts, but that our gifts will MAKE room. It doesn’t say we will DISCOVER opportunities for greatness, but that our creativity will MANIFEST the opportunities.

In other words, we are not here to compete with others over what already exists. We’re here to bring forth that which is yet to be. There is no room for you in this world and that’s a good thing. If there was, you’d be a waste of space because the whole point of your being here is to contribute to the expansion of the universe by adding your own uniqueness to the mix.

The notion of searching for our place in the world is based on the idea that we need to find some person or environment that gives us permission to be who we want to be. Many times we say we’re looking to find our niche when in reality we already know what our niche is and we’re just looking for evidence that things will work out if we act on what we already know.

In tomorrow’s post, I’ll give you my two cents on why I think this approach is problematic. I’ll tell you why I think the world of consensus opinion, market research, familial support, & historical precedent is an unreliable place to look when trying to figure out who you are and what you should do with your life.

I hope you’ll join me as I make yet another attempt at arguing for your possibilities.

Until then, create a great day!

Cheers,

T.K. Coleman

To read “You ARE the opportunity: Moving beyond ideas of scarcity & competition Pt 2,” click here.

I am a perfect unfolding of the wholeness of God

I am whole as is.

I am well as is.

I am wise as is.

My pace in life is not measured by clocks and calendars, but by my steady willingness to love myself more and more, bit by bit, day by day.

Rather than evaluating myself solely in terms of the results I achieve, I choose to express appreciation for the sincere efforts I have made to become more aware and expressive of the good within me.

I count even my frustrations as markers along the path, letting me know that I am moving into a larger sense of self in which older standards of happiness and success no longer apply.

Asserting my right to evaluate my life according to my own terms and values, I choose to transcend conventional understandings of “progress” in favor of a more nurturing point of view.

I affirm that I am whole.

I affirm that I am well.

I affirm that I am wise.

I possess none of these qualities for what I have done.

Yet, I embody them all for I am a perfect unfolding of the wholeness of God.

T.K. Coleman

Today doesn’t have to be the best day ever

Here’s an insight I’ve learned, and continue to learn, from my observations of people (including myself) who live healthy and deeply fulfilled lives:

You don’t have to be in an enthusiastic, celebratory, stereotypically happy mood all the time in order to live an amazing, adventurous, and meaningful life.

Let happiness come to you

One of the great insights of contemporary positive psychology is that happiness, like money, is usually most successfully achieved through indirect means

This doesn’t mean that happiness can’t be your #1 priority in life. I, personally, am of the persuasion that nothing matters more than consistently feeling as good as possible in a variety of ways that are both healthy and stimulating. However, too much direct focus on being happy can lead to an obsessive preoccupation with attempting to analyze and manage one’s emotions.

C.S. Lewis once wrote “the man who tries to measure how quickly he’s falling asleep is likely to remain awake all night.”

Sometimes you have to focus your attention on something other than the result you wish to achieve in order to create that result.

Banging your head against the wall for a solution while judging yourself for not being where you want to be only solidifies yourself in the same state.

When you feel unhappy, that means you’re alive

Being in an uncomfortable or low mood state is not a sin that needs to be forgiven nor is it a disease that needs to be cured.

It simply comes with the territory of being an evolving person who’s here to learn, grow, and actualize their creative potential.

Sometimes, the best thing you can do when you’re in a low mood state is to simply accept the fact that you are where you are and then engage in some form of action that redirects your attention.

Get your energy flowing

Take a walk, go exercise, journal, blog, work on an unfinished project, or anything else that isn’t directly aimed at “studying” your unhappiness.

Consistent, concentrated, and creative involvement in relationships & activities that you find meaningful and challenging is one of the most time-tested routes to a joyous life.

While you may feel some resistance about getting started, you are far more likely to feel better once you begin to build momentum.

Furthermore, when you do something that you consider valuable, you tend to feel positive emotions like pride, confidence, and appreciation afterwards. These are among the richest of emotional rewards.

The life you love is still there even when you’re not in the mood to believe in it

If today or any other day seems to be a drag, do the best you can, within reason, to feel better. If your best efforts don’t work, then let it go and try not to attack, criticize, or hate yourself for this.

Today doesn’t have to be the best day ever, but it can still be a decent day for respecting yourself, nurturing your health, and showing up to do the work you love regardless of how you feel and irrespective of how little you may accomplish. 

Besides, pretty soon you WILL feel better. When that moment comes, you’ll thank your low mood self for hanging in there when times were tough.

At least that’s my two cents.

Cheers,

T.K. Coleman

TK’s Two Cents: Why “annoying” people are awesome! Pt. 3

I presume you’ve read part 1 and part 2. So without further ado, here’s the remainder of my two cents on “annoying” people.

What to do (or not to do) about annoying people

The next time you find yourself annoyed with someone, maybe it would help to consider the possibility that this individual is a genius who is on this earth to solve real problems that you personally don’t understand, have, or care about. Instead of trying to get other people to change, maybe you could encourage them to find their crowd and utilize their personality traits in a way that would benefit others.

If that sounds like too much work, maybe you can just leave them alone, let them be, and rest in the awareness that God gave them their personality for a reason. That understanding alone, tends to be much less stressful than being frustrated with the differences we can’t change.

One man’s problem is always another man’s problem solver. What annoys you may alleviate someone else’s annoyances. Maybe the very quality you hate about them is the same attribute that’s going to prevent someone else from jumping off the cliff and throwing it all away. 

Does it not genuinely feel better to entertain a notion like that?

Why should you care about being more understanding, patient, & tolerant with annoying people?

I have seen very talented, brilliant, and driven people consume  significant quantities of time and energy bemoaning someone else’s annoying qualities. I’ve also seen very gifted and unique individuals subdue their passions because of a fear of being annoying. Ultimately, how we judge others is intimately related to how we judge ourselves. When we lack compassion and insight in the assessments we make of our own personalities, we tend to extend those attitudes to other people and vice versa.

An improved ability to see other people’s annoyances in an appreciative light deepens our own capacity for self-love and self-respect. When you can be free of the need to judge others, you feel less intimidated when others judge you. When you practice the art of looking for evidence of genius in the people who irritate you, you become more privy to the genius within.

The better you are at getting over how annoying someone else is, the better you will be at remembering how fascinating you are. And there’s nothing the world needs more than someone who remembers how fascinating they are. We may find you a little annoying from time to time,  but what else is new? Keep doing you and let others do the same.

Because it’s the right thing to do? Nope! It just feels better to live that way.

At least that’s my two cents. What’s yours?

T.K. Coleman

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