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Sometimes there’s no lesson to learn

Have you ever trusted someone only to have them disappoint you?

Have you ever failed to close on an important business deal?

Have you ever been in the middle of a great day, only to have drama spring up out of nowhere?

Have you ever asked for something and been told “no”?

Have you ever taken a risk and fallen flat on your face?

Have you ever tried ANYTHING that didn’t work?

Do I sound like a commercial that’s getting ready to sell you something for the low low cost of $19.95?

The unanticipated life

If you answered “yes” to any of the above questions, then welcome to life. Life is a place where the unanticipated happens and I don’t anticipate that changing anytime soon. Our experience of the unanticipated is not inherently problematic. The good and the bad of it all comes down to how we choose to process the experience. If you’re a regular reader of this blog, then you’re already familiar with two personal convictions I have:

1) Accepting disempowering beliefs leads to a quality of life that is unhealthy, unproductive, and unfulfilling.

2) Cultivating empowering beliefs leads to a creative, peaceful, and satisfying experience of well-being.

But today, I’d like to deviate a bit from my usual efforts at dismantling negative beliefs and defending empowering ones.

Today’s lesson is a non-lesson

My lesson today is simple:

Sometimes there’s no lesson to be learned.

Not getting what you want doesn’t ALWAYS mean there’s something you need to change or figure out.

Life is a process and everything isn’t meant to work out the first time around. Analyzing a situation or working extra hard isn’t going to change that simple fact.

No amount of therapy, pills, self-help courses, friends, advice, prayers, motivational speeches, sermons, effort, or thought will save you from the risks, mistakes, failures, and so-called “set-backs” that are built into the life experience.

What I didn’t learn from an experiment with failure

Back in college, as part of an ice breaker group routine at a retreat, some friends and I were faced with the difficult task of physically carrying each member of a group to a certain location without anyone’s body touching any of the objects that were deemed “out of bounds.” My friends and I figured out the perfect way to adjust our physicality and maneuver our bodies so we could outwit the rule makers and successfully accomplish the task. Our performance was stunningly excellent. Everyone was impressed with the way we navigated around inconveniently placed obstacles without letting them touch us. Then, at the very end, we failed.

 Because our time hadn’t run out, we still had a chance to start from the beginning and attempt completion. So we all huddled up and went into strategy planning mode. Everyone threw out a few suggestions for what we could do differently. After about 5 minutes of this, one of the group members said “hey, I think our approach was fine. It just didn’t work that time. Maybe we should just get out there and try the exact strategy again. We did and we succeeded.

Here’s the lesson I learned: There was no lesson to be learned from our failure. We had a great plan. It just didn’t work the first time around. That’s simply how life is. 

Maybe you’re doing just fine. Perhaps the only thing you need to do is not stop.

That’s my two cents.


T.K. Coleman

You have nothing to lose!

There are no sacrifices!

Remember your limitlessness!

Embrace your power! Release your fear!

Be courageously creative!

In this Universe of redemption and renewal, nothing is lost. The only thing we really “give up” is the false appearance of powerlessness and the anxiety it generates.

When you commit your mind to an empowering philosophy, you draw only Good into your experience. When you cater your conversation to well-being, the cosmos will serve only its most edifying elements to you. When you set your gaze in the direction of lovely things, lovely things will fly your way and make their nest with you. When you look for evidence that all is well, you develop the eyes to see that things could never be to the contrary.

Even that which appears to be harmful will, in the end, prove itself to have served a beneficial purpose.

So move boldly in the direction of your True Self. For there is nothing to be lost and everything to be gained.

Love & Light,

T.K. Coleman

Make it real by the way you feel

I choose to honor my feelings. By acknowledging emotion as a valuable element in the creative process, I position myself to gain greater control over my life.

Thought is the vehicle. Emotion is the engine.

Thomas Troward once wrote “It is thought which creates the form, but it is feeling which gives vitality to thought.” This is a very important insight for those involved in the process of using the power of thought to manifest desired realities. Forming a mental image of the life we long for is the initial step in the creative process. It is impossible to consciously create a life that we’re unable to first envision as possible. We must always begin with a new conception of self. This new conception or mental image is what Troward calls a “thought-form”.
The persistent contemplation of what we want creates a thought-form in the invisible realm which begins to germinate like a seed until it sprouts into manifestation on the physical plane. What Troward points out, however, is that the mere creation of thought-forms is not enough. In order for those thought-forms to gain momentum, one must meditate upon them with deep feeling. Jeff Grupp refers to this process as “Telementation”, which is the practice of “feeling reality into existence.”

Feel it real

If every thought were a seed, emotion would be the water that causes each of them to grow. Only those positive thoughts which have been brought to life by heartfelt emotional energy will attract to us the things we desire. It has been observed that an ordinary piece of steel has no attracting power, but when chemical energy rearranges the position of its molecules, it becomes magnetized and is able to attract objects up to ten times its weight. Emotional energy magnetizes our thought-forms. It provides the power which enables our thoughts to attract wonderful things to themselves.

If we want to change the way our life is going, we must alter the direction in which our emotional energy flows. The world responds to us according to the “frequency of our feelings.” If we wish to ever break free from the cycle of negativity that seems to characterize our lives, we must develop the discipline of learning to feel good independently of what’s going on around us. We simply cannot afford to wait on the right circumstances to show up before we give ourselves permission to be happy. By the exercise of creative imagination, we can transport ourselves into the feeling-state of a life that is already whole. These positive feelings will then assist our physical efforts in properly arranging the outer conditions which accurately reflect our new inner state. 

Bobby Mcferrin was right: “Don’t worry. Be happy.” Why? Because when we feel good, we have greater access to the inner and outer resources that make dreams come true. So hold the image of something pleasant in mind and infuse that image with the fire of emotion.

What you feel, you have the power to make real.

That’s my two cents! What do you feel?

T.K. Coleman

You can do anything better when you’re doing better

The quality of my life is determined by the quality of my thoughts. As I exercise my freedom to think well, I will gradually begin to feel well, and ultimately I will live well.

Can positive thinking really do anything?

Zig Ziglar once told the story of a woman who angrily approached him after one of his lectures and charged “You positive thinkers. You naively seem to think that positive thinking can do anything.” Mr Ziglar responded “Well, I don’t think positive thinking can do anything, but I do believe positive thinking can do anything better than negative thinking can.”

Optimism IS realism

The optimistic life is sometimes misunderstood as the naive belief that by simply closing one’s eyes and visualizing flowers and rainbows, we can make the contrasting elements of life disappear. Tough-minded optimism, however, is not the denial of life’s difficulties, but rather the recognition that we can face any situation with confidence and hope. We are not here to suppress that which appears to be unpleasant. We are here to master the art of assimilating such discrepancies into the creative process.

Sometimes life does seem hard. This we should not deny. Even in the midst of such tough times, however, we must affirm our power to not let the hard times dismantle our resolve to live and our will to press forward in productive action. We must believe in ourselves and in our inner strength enough to know that we have what it takes to deal creatively with whatever challenges we encounter on our life path.

Optimism is realism because the optimistic philosophy holds us accountable to the truth that we do, indeed, have the option of choosing to be the deliberate creators of our own experiences.

When you get positive, you get practical

Far from mere idealism, this is a practical attitude. Nothing is more productive than establishing our personal connection to well-being. When we focus our attention in a life-giving way, we are “getting things done” in the way we were made to “get things done.”

Of course you’re going to feel better if you successfully create something you want, but you’re far more likely to successfully create it if you can find a way to feel good first.  An attitude of defeatism and discouragement isn’t going to make you better. If you want answers, solutions, and practical achievements, then lift your head up.

You can do anything better when you’re doing better.

That’s my two cents.


T.K. Coleman

Humanity needs you Pt. 2

In a previous post I wrote about the quandary of doing good deeds for others that go unappreciated and unreciprocated. It’s called “What goes around, comes in a round about way.” In my most recent post, I continued that theme by showing how people benefit from the spirit of well-being that you radiate even when they don’t recognize it. You can read that post by clicking here. Today, I’d like to offer a bit more encouragement to those who have ever felt weary from taking the high road in life.

An insight that inspires

“So let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up.” – St. Paul’s epistle to the Galatians.
When we release our need for praise and social approval, we find a hidden source of strength that empowers us to press toward our goals without fear of loss, regret, or persecution.
This strength is motivated by an awareness which sees beyond the immediate physical effects of our actions. It is propelled by a conviction that in the end the truth of love prevails over the myth of hate, light eventually fills every dark space, and good truly does dispel the illusion of evil.

Good is classic and everything else is a fad

Acts of goodness have a way of stretching across time and space as they continue producing positive effects on humanity long after the original acts were performed.
Opposition comes & goes and conflicts are fair weather fiends, but that which emanates from a positive source will always have its inevitable day of vindication. The privilege and joy of being a part of that day outweighs any seeming inconveniences that threaten us along the way.

I know, I know…trust me, I know, but do it anyway

Below I have posted a very wonderful piece of writing by Dr. Kent M. Keith. It’s called “The Paradoxical Commandments.” May his words inspire you to persist in your pursuit and practice of the good life.
1. People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered. Love them anyway.
2. If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives. Do good anyway.
3. If you are successful, you win false friends and true enemies. Succeed anyway.
4. The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.
5. Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable. Be honest and frank anyway.
6. The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds. Think big anyway.
7. People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs. Fight for a few underdogs anyway.
8. What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight. Build anyway.
9. People really need help but may attack you if you do help them. Help people anyway.
10. Give the world the best you have and you’ll get kicked in the teeth. Give the world the best you have anyway.
T.K Coleman
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