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Humanity needs you

Today I choose to be stubbornly positive. Even when my efforts are not met with praise or social approval, I will strive to live in accordance with my highest values. Someone, somewhere will benefit from the power of my good intentions. I choose to be the best I can be not only for myself, but also for those who need a reason to believe in their own possibilities.

What’s best for you is what’s best for them

A monk of the ancient Eastern Orthodox church once said that “when a man goes out alone in the desert to meet God, he goes not only for himself but for the rest of the world.” His message was simply that it is impossible to pursue personal transformation without also producing global transformation. The efforts that we make towards our own individual greatness will inevitably contribute to the collective advancement of humanity as a whole. This awareness is what led Ghandi to say “Be the change you want to see in the world.”

When great spirits meet mediocre minds

Staying focused on being your best, however, is not always the easiest thing to do. The moment we decide to take a step towards change, we encounter the resistance of a world that does not wish to be moved out of its comfort zones. Albert Einstein once stated “Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds.” For every one man with vision, there will be one hundred men with no imagination who insist on calling the visionary a fool. For every one woman with faith, there will be one hundred women with one hundred reasons for why the faithful should not believe. For every one child with a dream, there will be many who encourage him to just grow up and get real.

When you transcend them, you transform them

When such resistance is encountered, it is tempting to argue with critics and fight with enemies. As tough-minded optimists, however, we must adopt a higher path. Our purpose on this Earth is not to forcibly change people into what we want them to be.

The purpose of an idea is not to convert others into believing it, but to become empowered by the idea so we can create beauty in our world that even our critics, enemies, and naysayers can be blessed by.

Abandon the need to be thought of highly. Let go of the pressure to make everyone happy. Don’t fear being misunderstood. Just go after your dreams, desires, and goals with the utmost tenacity. Humanity needs you whether it knows it does or not.

That, my friends, is T.K.’s Two Cents.

Thanks for reading.

Cheers,

T.K. Coleman

What goes around, comes in a round about way!

All too often, we do good for others only to become disappointed when similar acts of kindness go unreturned. Part of the let down and resentment we feel stems from the common conviction that one should “do unto others as you would have them do unto you” combined with the equally popular notion that “you reap what you sow.” When we treat others how we want to be treated, it can really hurt our feelings when the treatment isn’t reciprocated.

If what I’m saying is resonating with you at all, you may find this following qoute helpful. I’m not sure who to attribute it to, but it’s one of those precious gems I picked up from someone along the way:

“We do not reap where we so. We reap what we sow.”

Allow me to offer my two cents on that one.

Whenever we put goodness out into the Universe, goodness will always come back to us in some shape, form, or fashion.

Our job is not to demand that goodness comes through a particular person or channel.

Our job is to simply sow the seeds of goodness in a spirit of faith while allowing the harvest we reap to crop up in whatever way it chooses.

When we place too much focus on our personal ideas regarding who we think should be the one to reward us for our good deeds, we become closed to the broader ranger of options that truly exist on our behalf.

The key is to remain open to benevolent energy regardless of where it comes from.

We live in a Universe of principle. No act of good is ever wasted. Certain individuals may fail to pay you back and some people might refuse to give you the credit you deserve. But, ultimately, the good you deserve will come to you in perfect timing in and through the right means.

What goes around still comes around. Sometimes it just comes in a round about way.

That’s my two cents,

T.K. Coleman

Beware of advice Pt. 2

 
I ended my last post promising to offer my two cents on what i referred to as “the million dollar question.” Be advised: you may find this assessment empowering. 

 

The inevitable question

 
Shouldn’t we consult unhappy individuals or study the people who fail in order to learn what NOT to do?

Here’s my two cents:

If your goal is to figure out what NOT to do, then you should DEFINITELY study people who are not doing it. But it may help you to know the following;

Knowing what you should not do is different from knowing what you should do. The former is defensive. The latter is proactive.

Learning how to avoid the unwanted is not the same as learning how to create that which is wanted.

Becoming an expert at problem solving will never be a substitute for embracing possibilities and actually engaging life. 

So I ask you: Is it your primary goal to figure out what NOT to do so you can avoid the unwanted?

Whatever floats your boat

Allow me to share with you a very insightful excerpt from a series of lectures delivered by Professor Thomas Troward at Edinburgh College in 1908:

“The law of floatation was not discovered by contemplating the sinking of things, but by contemplating the floating of things which floated naturally, and then intelligently asking why they did so.”

To put it plainly, sinking ships can’t teach you how to float. You have to focus on the result you want to achieve, in order to effectively arrive at that result. Even the lessons we learn from failure can only become meaningful within the context of a larger vision which points us in the direction of an intended goal.

So no matter how successful you become at analyzing failure, solving problems, and avoiding unwanted scenarios, you still have to eventually take the time to learn the principles behind the creative process.

Who’s advice do you think is more likely to lead you in that direction:

A) A sideline cynic with confidently stated reasons for why attempting to do the extraordinary is a bunch of BS?

or

B) An ordinary person like you who’s found a way to overcome adversity and make their ideas happen?

A few (more) questions

Here’s a 5 question checklist I suggest you use next time someone offers you their opinion. The implications you derive from the answers you get to these questions is up to your own judgement. My hope is that by asking these questions before you ask for advice, you’ll be in a much better position to discern what’s best for you.

1) Has this person ever been to the places I wish to go or attempted the activities I want to try?

2) Has this individual found success in the area(s) I wish to be successful in?

3) Does this person seem to have an attitude I would like to have?

4) Do they follow their own advice?

5) If so, does it make them happy?

Think Twice

In conclusion, is it possible that when you listen to unhappy people or individuals who fail to reach their goals, something good can result from it? Of course! But their perspective is only going to take you so far and, besides, something good can happen as a result of you doing just about anything. The question you really want to ask is “what is the best use of my time, given the goals I want to achieve?”

I recently saw the film “Answer Man” starring Lauren Graham from “Gilmore Girls.” There’s a scene where her character, Elizabeth, says the following words to her young daughter:

“Don’t take advice from someone you wouldn’t trade places with.”

Well, her character turns out quite happy in the end. In my opinion that’s a pretty good candidate for someone worth trading places with. So I hope you’ll take her advice.

Either way, do what works for YOU.

Cheers,

T.K. Coleman

Beware of advice

Do you like to ask people for advice?

What standards do you use when asking them?

Is there anyone from whom you would not take advice? Why?

I would be an even richer man (I never like to think of myself as anything less than already rich), if I had a nickel for every person who abandoned a dream, failed to follow-up on an interest, or closed the door on an opportunity because of advice they took from someone. I don’t want this to happen to you. As a fan of self-empowerment, I want you to get the best advice possible when it comes to the matters that really count in your life.

So today I’d like to give you a bit of advice on taking advice.

Find someone who’s doing or has done what you want to do.

Let’s say you currently make $35K a year and you want to make $100k within the next 5 years. Why not start by talking to or reading about some people who make over $100k? It seems obvious, right? But do you know what many people actually do? They talk to their friend who works at the same restaurant or retail store as they do. When that friend says “Oh, that’s just a pipe dream. You can’t make that amount of money without selling your soul”, they actually listen to this as if it were an irrefutable scientific fact. In reality, it’s just a friend’s hypothesis untested by direct experience. Good advice an untested hypothesis does not make. You must find someone who’s doing or has done what you want to do if you expect to find high quality advice.

If you want to be a pilot, for instance, then talk to an actual pilot. Your Uncle, who’s never flown a plane in his life before, may still be able to offer you some valuable advice on general things like persistence and punctuality, but you should never end your pursuit of wise counsel with people who lack direct experience with what you want to do.

Look for happy examples

It’s also important to make sure the person you talk to is happy with what they do. If you’re considering a move to Las Vegas, don’t just talk to someone who has lived in Vegas. In your search, be sure to find someone who was happy living there as well. Engaging in prolonged discussion with someone who hated their experience can give you a skewed outlook on the possibilities that await you. If you want to visit someplace, consult with the individual that’s found 101 different ways to enjoy the place you want to go.

If you want to have a good time, consult people who know how to have a good time. If you want your plans to work, go study the people who find a way to make plans work.  

Take dating as an example. There are single people who have all sorts of negative views about relationships. The guys do radio shows where they talk about how manipulative the women are. The women write books about how all men are dogs and the list goes on. Now, if you’re a single person and you want to have a thrilling relationship, is this really the group of people whose thinking you want to emulate? It’s one thing to respect people’s right to an opinion and it’s an entirely different thing to model your  lifestyle choices after those opinions. It’s okay to respectfully listen to what single people have to say, but if you want to be in a healthy, happy relationship, you’ll want to glean from the inspiration and wisdom of a few people who are currently experiencing the kind of situation you wish to manifest.

The other side

There will always be someone out there with a negative outlook who claims to have tried something similar to what you may be pursuing. They usually have very compelling words to say about how failure, unhappiness, and regret is inevitable. If I were you, I wouldn’t limit my understanding of anything to what these people have to say.

But shouldn’t we consult unhappy individuals or study the people who fail in order to learn what NOT to do?

That’s the million dollar question, my friends. In my next post, I’ll offer my two cents on the assumptions that question is based on. Then I’ll leave you with a few questions of my own. Until then, create a great day.

Cheers,

T.K. Coleman

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Is it safe to play it safe?

“The cost of not pursuing a dream is greater than the cost of failure.” -Jeff Goins

Is there really such a phenomenon as playing it safe?

I suppose one could make an intelligent case that some activities are more risk free than others. Sitting on my couch watching television seems to be safer than bungee jumping. Investing money in penny stock seems  much riskier than hiding money under my bed. There’s clearly a common sense element to this notion we’d all benefit from understanding. However, the admonition to play it safe can also be a major dream killer if one doesn’t place it in a broader context.

In almost all cases where someone speaks of playing it safe, they’re thinking  in terms of what is 1) physically harmless  2) economically conservative or 3) NOT socially embarrassing.

But what happens to our concept of safe if we add the following two categories into the mix: what is 1) psychologically palatable and 2) spiritually satisfying?

Does it then become possible that every decision is risky and safe at the same time, but in a different sense?

Is it possible that by playing it safe in one sense, we are placing ourselves at great risk in another?

In relationship to what, exactly, are we playing it safe?

As you consider making plans and setting goals, are you focused solely on not losing money,  avoiding discomfort, or escaping the possibility of embarrassment?

Is your concept of playing it safe causing you to put your happiness at risk? By not taking any chances, are you playing Russian roulette with your spiritual legacy?

In light of the four categories of risk I’ve mentioned, what if there is no such thing as playing it safe at all?

If there is no such thing as playing it safe, what should the basis of your decisions be?

You tell me! I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Cheers,

T.K. Coleman

If you liked this post, check out:

1. Are you good enough to be bad?

2. Excuses are great, but they don’t create.

3. Beware of advice

4. The productivity of play

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