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Do you want to have the last word or the last laugh? Doers and Debaters

In life, there are Doers and Debaters. Doers are people who act on their desires and follow their dreams regardless of what anyone else thinks. They do things that make them happy and they tend to live deeply satisfying lives. Debaters, on the other hand, are people who orient their lives primarily around the activity of scrutinizing and reacting to what Doers do. They don’t necessarily accomplish anything, but they rarely lack an opinion about those who do.

Debaters who appear to be Doers

The line is not easily drawn between the two groups. Some people who appear to be Doers are actually Debaters. They have the outer appearance of being a mover or a shaker and they might actually get a lot of “stuff” done or possibly make large amounts of money, but they are hesitant to move an inch when it comes to doing what they really want to do. While they may stay busy as far a physical activity is concerned, they fear taking the slightest risk in the direction of anything that might dare to make them feel alive. Their true nature as debaters is revealed only when one sees how passionate they are about arguing for their limitations when someone challenges them to be true to themselves.

Doers who appear to be Debaters

Sorting out the Debaters is equally thorny. Some people, like certain political analysts, film critics, and sports commentators, seem to be Debaters because they write and debate a lot about what’s going on in the world. But when you look beyond the surface, you find that they are very enthusiastic and enterprising people who are proactively creating opportunities through their passion for critical thinking and provocative discussion. Their true nature as Doers is revealed when one observes how consistently they show up to their blogs, podcasts, coffee shops, office desks, pulpits, and podiums to do the work that turns them on and makes life worth living.

What am I?

So, you may be asking “Well, am I a doer or a debater?”

In one sense, we’re all Doers. Either we’re doing what we really want to do or we’re doing what we’ve been conditioned to think we have to do. In the sense I’m discussing here, you’re a doer if you’re doing or preparing to do what YOU really want to do.

By the same measure, we’re all Debaters. When the subject of “living your dreams” or “practicing a self-authentic lifestyle” comes up, either we argue for our possibilities or we defend our limitations and excuses. In the sense I’m discussing here, you’re a debater if you’re the person who uses his logic and reasoning skills to keep coming up with really awesome reasons for why you just can’t live the life YOU really want to live.

Are you a doer or a debater?

Here are a few questions you can ask yourself:

 Am I doing that which is consistent with my highest values and excitement or am I doing something less?
 
Am I arguing for my limitations or am I allowing my possibilities?
 
Am I taking the emotional, mental, and physical steps towards expressing MY Authentic Self or am I too busy analyzing someone else’s life and work?
 
Am I living my life to have the last word or am I living my life to have the last laugh?

The choice is yours. Make it count. That’s my two cents.

Cheers,

T.K. Coleman

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