When you despise the qualities you dislike in others, you assimilate those same characteristics into your own personality.
I remember a phase when I grew “sick and tired” of complainers.
I went on and on about how much I hated people who complained about their problems.
It hadn’t occurred to me that complaining about complainers is just another form of complaining.
By focusing my attention on the people I despised, I became just like them.
Are you focusing your energy on what moves you forward or are you too busy bemoaning those who behave badly?