“Everybody else is doing it is an excuse, not a reason. It could be that everybody else isn’t, but the Devil is introducing you to the few that are in the hopes that he can fool you.” -Paula Knoderer Hrbacek
Here’s a simple lesson my Mom taught me back in elementary school about doing the right thing: peer pressure is a one way street.
The “friends” who coax you into compromising your values are not going to knock themselves over in an effort to take punishment for you if you get into trouble.
You can always find people who will help you make trouble.
It’s a lot harder to find people who want to help you get out.
Your life is like a big fat check that you get to write for yourself. If it’s good, everybody wants a piece of it. If it bounces around and fails, the majority will just give you a lecture about how irresponsible you were while they leave you to sort out the details.
Be brutally honest with yourself about that fact.
Before you follow anyone’s advice about anything, it would be wise to assume that you are going to be the only person shouldering the expense if that advice leads to costly consequences.
So, here’s my guiding principle for filtering through the unsolicited advice of those who are eager to tell you how you ought to run your life:
If they don’t have to pay, they don’t get the final say.