My Brief Guide to Dealing with Vaguebookers

“For those who may not know what vaguebooking is, it’s the act of posting a status update about a specific thing or person but providing absolutely no details as to who they are or what the thing might be.” – Joseph Hindy, 5 Reasons Vaguebooking Is Destroying Your Relationships

If you’re wondering “Are they talking about me?” then you may have already wasted your time.

If the person you’re wondering about was interested in a specific answer or specific response, they would have asked a specific question or made a specific criticism. Are there exceptions? Of course. Sometimes people vaguebook because they need help and don’t know how to ask for it in a straightforward or direct manner. Some people vaguebook to be humorous while others do it as a way of speaking in code to their friends. If you’re dealing with a person who appears to be making a sincere cry for help, then help them out to the best of your ability. If the status update is just a joke, feel free to laugh your heart out. If the vaguebooker is speaking in code to their friends, have fun deciphering the hidden meanings. Otherwise, instead of asking yourself “Are they talking about me?” you might want to consider a different question: “Are there better uses for my time than analyzing vague passive-aggressive statements on social media?”

If you’re a person with specific goals, then the last thing you can afford to do is squander your life away analyzing the words of someone who isn’t interested in taking the specific risk of specifying the subject/object of their disdain or disgust.

Just as others have the right to vaguebook about whatever they want, you have the right to protect your energy, value your time, and manage your attention like any other person who chooses to live deliberately and purposefully.