Desire and Self-honesty

Here’s a nice little quote I recently heard from Abraham Hicks:

“Don’t talk yourself out of wanting something just because you haven’t figured out a way to get it.”

Have you ever done that? Have you ever pretended to be uninterested in something or someone just because you were afraid of getting hurt, embarrassing yourself, or being told no?

Here’s the thing about self-honesty and desire: If you pretend to not want something just because it seems impossible to get, you’re lying to yourself. And lying to yourself is never healthy.

Even if it’s true that you can’t have something, that doesn’t mean you need to act as if you don’t care. In fact, one of the most liberating and mature things we can do is admit how much we desire things even when we know we can’t have them. It’s not only honest, it’s healthy.

When you allow yourself the freedom to desire what you desire without guilt or apology, it makes it much easier for you to think clearly about how to pursue it or how to let it go. Pretending to have never been interested in the first place is just a convoluted defense mechanism that clouds your thinking and eats up your time by forcing you to keep up an act.

If you want something, be straight with yourself. Maybe you’ll find a way to create it. Maybe you won’t. Either way, you’ll get to experience the power or at least the peace that comes from telling yourself the truth about what makes you come alive. And if you ever need to let something go, the truth will be the thing that makes you free to do so.