Dating, Social Dynamics, and the Perils of Pick Up Artistry

“Compromise is only meaningful within the context of conviction.”

The greatest prize to be pursued is not the attention, affection, or approval of some person you’re attracted to. The greatest prize is the cultivation of your own potential.

Ultimate validation comes from within.

When you can become more preoccupied with living a life of purpose than with getting other people to think you’re cute, that’s when you’ve truly mastered the game.

It doesn’t matter how hard you work to impress and attract others if you don’t have something you’re willing to live for beyond your popularity status in the dating world.

That’s how I approach this whole business of dating, relationships, and what some refer to as “game.” In our most recent episode, Isaac Morehouse and I discuss some of our thoughts on dating, social dynamics, and the perils of pick up artistry.

Here are some of the topics covered:

•Christmas music
•How young people respond to relationship problems, the victim vs. the aspirational player.
•The antagonistic view of relationships with employers and romantic partners
•Why being unimportant is liberating
•The paradox of trying to be attractive
•Never be desperate
•Learning from heartbreak
•Promises make relationship fragile
•How to stay in your Zone of Power

Here are some of the blog posts and books we mentioned during the episode:

Beware of “Good Guy” Syndrome 
Derek Magill on the best advice his mother ever gave him
No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover
Obliquity by John Kay
The Disowned Self  by Nathaniel Branden
Outwitting the Devil by Napoleon Hill

And, of course, you can listen to the episode here: