If you ask for an opinion, you’re probably going to get one. So before you ask, make sure… 1) An opinion is what you actually want, 2) You’re capable of tolerating feedback you may dislike or disagree with, 3) The person you’re asking is someone whose experience and expertise you sincerely respect, and 4) You’re… Continue reading On asking for opinions
I’ve had people ask me, “Do you think I’m entitled?” This question is usually voiced in response to the insecurities one feels about some desire or expectation they have. It’s another way of asking, “is it irrational, unrealistic, inconsiderate, unfair, insane, immature, or inappropriate for me to want what I want?” Here’s my two cents:… Continue reading Blog Post #365: Are you entitled?
This is my 364th blog post. Tomorrow, I will achieve my goal of blogging every single day for 365 consecutive days. Some days I have felt inspired to write. Other days have felt dry. Some days I have felt very proud about what I wrote. On other days, the quality of my writing made me feel… Continue reading May the force be with you
I remember going to a late night family diner with a friend at the age of 18. After we ate, we paid our bill and left. As we approached the car, the young waitress who served us came running out of the restaurant and, with a completely exasperated look on her face, asked “was my… Continue reading A lesson from the waitress that I didn’t tip
You don’t need to understand the inner psychological workings of every single person who frustrates you. In many cases, the pursuit of such knowledge is just a distraction from the real issue; Frustration is what results when you feel like you’re not in control of the process of ensuring that your core needs are being… Continue reading Don’t try to figure them out (all the time)