Something You Should Know About What You Should’ve Known

“I should have known better.” Famous last words. Perhaps it is true that you *should* have known better, but that doesn’t change the fact that you only could’ve known what you actually knew. Wallowing in guilt about what you think you should have known isn’t going to make you one bit smarter. In fact, it might… Continue reading Something You Should Know About What You Should’ve Known

Self-Help or Self-Hurt?

Even though Self-help books are designed to help us help ourselves, they sometimes end up having the opposite affect. Over the course of my lifetime, I’ve met many people who’ve picked up self-help books with a great deal of optimism only to finish reading them with less hope than what they started out with. What’s… Continue reading Self-Help or Self-Hurt?

Self-help is as dangerous as it is helpful: It all depends on how you approach it

For every principle, there’s a variable. Hard work pays off (except for when it doesn’t). Being friendly is a great way to make friends (except when it isn’t), Do what you love and the money will follow (except for when things just don’t work out that way for whatever reason). Be assertive and people will… Continue reading Self-help is as dangerous as it is helpful: It all depends on how you approach it

You’re free whether you like it or not

The ability to say “I hate my life” does not make one a victim. Not liking reality isn’t the same thing as being devoid of power. Personal freedom is not a mood. It’s an ontological fact. Its existence does not depend on the absence of unwanted conditions. Its presence is not always confirmed by an abundance of… Continue reading You’re free whether you like it or not

I feel like a victim today, but I know better

This past weekend, I experienced an unprecedented variety of unanticipated inconveniences. The amount of time I lost almost made my blood boil. I had to reassign so many tasks that I am now in the unenviable position of managing twice my already abnormal workload. I woke up this morning thinking thoughts like “I should have never… Continue reading I feel like a victim today, but I know better